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The D-word.
It’s most people’s worst fear, but, in a bittersweet
way, it was my greatest joy. In divorce, you gain
something and you lose something. There is no way around
it, and in the end, it is best for everyone, whether
they know it at the time or not.
I’m thirteen years old, and I know what
it feels like when parents split up, because mine did
last fall.
My parents had been unhappy for years.
When my father started cheating on my mom, things went
downhill. I thought they would divorce instantly. I
tried to picture my life after my parents split
up—living at my mom’s house during the week, and my
father’s house on the weekend. I was scared. But my mom
decided to be the bigger person and try to stick it out,
so that my siblings and I would know what it was like to
have a family. Things didn’t get better though.
I would always
strain to hear the quiet arguments they didn’t want me
to hear. They weren’t getting along and they weren’t
happy. But I could tell that they didn’t know what they
would do if they broke up. They took comfort in just
coming home to someone, no matter what they had done.
They were both scared, even if they didn’t admit it.
They would face their problems, together or apart, and
know that when things got bad—they had each other.
People don’t like change and they don’t want to find out
what could happen. Most people don’t want to take a
chance because there is a fifty percent chance the
result could come out good or a fifty percent chance
that it won’t. I learned though, that you dictate your
own future and when someone is pulling you down, you can
change their impact on you and that is just what I
did.
My father
had never really been there for me. He was there
physically but not emotionally. He yelled a lot and
never really showed any interest in going to my piano
recitals or watching my dance performances. Everything
we asked him to do, he had another excuse—a lie. We just
sort of ignored it and went on with our lives like
nothing was the matter.
Then last summer, there was real trouble
in paradise. My siblings and I went out to Los Angeles
to pursue acting and while we were out there, my father
cheated on my mom again, and this time my brother,
sister, and I all found out. He was going to make us
move back to Florida and leave L.A. forever. L.A. was
the best thing that had ever happened to me, my brother,
my sister, and my mom. We were finally all happy. We
decided to stay in L.A. and leave my father in
Florida.
Our
actions resulted in divorce. We didn’t know if we were
making the right decision or not. My mom went back and
forth. She wanted what was best for her children. She
confronted me and asked me if I thought we should go
back to Florida or stay in Los Angeles. I replied,
“There is nothing in Florida for us anymore. Out here in
L.A., we have so many dreams that can come true. We
shouldn’t let him abuse us anymore. Finally, we are
free.”
My
brother, sister, mom, and I finally were able to start
over and let our happiness rise to new levels. We were
allowed to become whoever we wanted to be and let our
dreams soar to the sky. We weren’t overshadowed by my
dad anymore, and he couldn’t hold his reputation and
actions above our heads. Sometimes I still wonder what
life would be like if my parents had not divorced, and I
become deeply upset about what I have lost. But the gain
was far greater.
The divorce was the best thing that had
ever happened to me and the rest of my family. I don’t
regret anything about it. I now know that taking chances
is the best thing to do. Even though I was scared at
first and had my doubts about the divorce, I was glad it
happened because now I could start my life over. The
bond between my mom and me grew to great heights.
I will always
remember what my mom said to me every time I would
become upset over everything that had happened. “We are
going to rise above.” And we did. I gained my life back
from the divorce and now I am the happiest I have been
in my whole life.
Everyone thought my life before was
perfect. The trophy mom, the successful father, a cute
brother, a wonderful actress as a sister, and then me. I
was the perfect child that every parent wanted. The girl
who received all A plusses on her report card, cared
about the world, excelled in piano, an elegant dancer—I
appeared to be the happiest girl in the world.
But I wasn’t—and
neither was my life, so I never will regret the divorce
and no one else should either. People who divorce take a
chance to make their lives better.
Finally, I accept
that love doesn’t always last. If, in your heart you can
feel something is not right, then follow your heart. In
the end it’s going to be your only true guide. To have
and to hold. For richer or poorer. Your heart will never
let you down.
(c) 2005 Chicken Soup for the Soul: Divorce and
Recovery
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A REAL
MISER
There was a
man, who had worked all of his life,
Had saved all
of his money,
And was a real
miser when it came to his money.
Just before he
died, he said to his wife,
"When I die, I
want you to take all my money
And put it in the
casket with me.
I want to take
my money to the afterlife with me."
And so he got
his wife to promise him with all of
her heart that
when he died, she would put all
of
the money in
the casket with
him.
Well, he died.
He was stretched out in the
casket,
his wife was sitting
there in black,
and
her friend was sitting next to her.
When they
finished the ceremony,
just before the
undertakers got ready to close the casket,
the wife said,
“Wait just a
minute!"
She had a box
in her hands as she went over
to the casket and
placed it inside.
Then the
undertakers locked the
casket down, and they rolled
it away.
Then her friend
said, "Girl, I know you weren't fool enough
to put all that money
in there with your husband.
The loyal wife
replied,
" Listen, I'm a
Christian; I can't go back
on my word.
I promised him that I was going to put
that money
in that casket
with him."
"You mean to tell me
you put that money in the casket with
him?!"
"I sure
did," said the wife.
"I got it all
together, put it into my bank account and wrote him a
check.
If he can cash it, he can spend
it."
~A little
laughter is good for the
soul! |
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Crock Pot Hamburger Soup
1
pound hamburger
1
large can tomato juice
1 cup
chopped onion
1 cup
chopped celery
1 cup
cooked noodles or cooked rice
Season
with salt and pepper as desired
Tear
hamburger in small pieces, place in bottom of crock pot.
Add tomato juice and turn crockpot to low; simmer. One
hour later, add vegetables and let simmer 4 to 6 hours.
Before serving, add rice or noodles, Turn crock pot,
setting to high and cook additional 1/2 hour. Reduce
heat and
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