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I had been home from work for about fifteen or twenty minutes, when my older son David came in from playing—looking very serious. He was only six years old at the time. Our younger son Mark, who is two and a half years younger, was right behind him.

I was watching the evening news on television when David came in and stood right in front of me. I have to admit that my thoughts were rambling between the news and David. I knew he had something on his mind, and he knew he could talk to me about anything. He also thought I had the answers to everything.


As he stood there, I could sense that he was nervous and wondered if there was something wrong, or if he was just going to ask one of his very serious questions about the rules of the game they were playing. But he was much too serious for that. Now he had my full attention.

He spoke rather quietly when he said, “Daddy, I need to talk to you.”

“Okay, Davie, what’s on your mind?”

“I’m a big boy now, right?”

“You sure are. Tell me what you’re thinking.”

He said, “I don’t want you to call me ‘Davie’ anymore, I want you to call me ‘Dave,’ and I don’t want to call you ‘Daddy,’ I want to call you ‘Dad.’”

With this out, he seemed even more serious or nervous. I smiled at him with the proudest smile I think I ever had.

I said, “That will be okay, Dave. I would like to call you ‘Dave’ or ‘David’ and look forward to you calling me ‘Dad.’ But, don’t ever call me ‘Father,’ okay?”

He relaxed and said in a very strong voice, “Can I go back out and play now, Dad?” As I said yes, my younger son came over close to me and said, “I still want to call you ‘Daddy.’”

I said, “I’m so glad you do!”

For the next few days, every time David had anything to say to me, he would begin it with “Dad.” Even if he wanted to know what we were having for supper, he would ask, “Dad, what are we having for dinner?”

It didn’t take Mark long to follow suit. I could barely keep the smile off my face! My wife would turn her head to smile.

My son David died July 1, 1993. The night before he died, he and I were talking on the telephone about how he was feeling. About six weeks before, he had surgery for removal of a testicular cancer. Then they did exploratory surgery to verify that his lymph system was clear of cancer. It was, thank God.

In this telephone conversation, David told me that he was experiencing blurred vision and numbness in his fingers, as well as slurred speech. I told him that he would be alright. He had just gone back to work too soon after the surgery. He agreed and said he would slow down a bit. We both laughed, because we both knew he wouldn’t slow down.

I said, “I love you, Davie,” to which he responded with loving laughter, “I love you, too, Daddy.”

I laughed and said, “Goodnight, Davie.”

“Goodnight, Daddy,” he said, and we both hung up our telephones. These were the last words we ever spoke to each other.

The next day at about noon, I was notified that David had been taken by ambulance to the local hospital. His wife was with him during the trip. When I arrived at the hospital, he was in a coma. As the afternoon wore on, the doctor informed us that David had a ruptured aneurysm in his brain. He lived until 7:06 p.m.

As I prayed for his life, many things went through my mind. Mainly, I will forever be grateful to God for his last words. We had no fences to mend. We enjoyed a good relationship. Although David’s passing was obviously painful—for him physically and for me emotionally—the innocence and sweetness of that shared childhood memory offered a poignant note on which a father can remember a son taken too early.

© 2000 from Chicken Soup for the Father's Soul

 

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Dear Mr. President:
  1. How much money does the president make? Could you please write and tell me because if it isn't enough money then I will become a dentist. --Timothy U., age 7 Jamestown, NY

  2. When will we have a woman president? I am ready. --Brooke A, age 10 Peoria, IL

  3. Do you have any friends in Congress? My mom says your only friend is the vice-president. --Richard D., age 8 Greenwich, CT

  4. Someday I hope there will be a woman president. But not my sister. She will drive everybody crazy -- the Democrats and Republicans. --A citizen, Lawrence K., age 8 Atlanta, GA

  5. What is your favorite book? My mom said it is the Bible because you have to pray a lot. --Kimberly W., age 8, Meriden, CT

  6. Dear President Bush: Can you help with the weather in Seattle? It rains too much. My mom said not even the president can do anything about the weather. I hope she is wrong. We need more sunshine in Seattle. --Elizabeth P., age 8 Seattle WA

  7. What does Congress do all day? My dad told me that Congress doesn't do anything but make trouble. --Ralph N., Palm Beach, FL

  8. What does the vice president do all day? I have asked a lot of grownups and nobody knows the answer. --Shannon D., age 8 Bismarck, ND

  9. I think you won the election because you were a better speaker even if a lot of people didn't know what you were talking about. --Tracy O., age 10 Green Valley, AZ

  10. My girlfriend Betsy and I would like to get married in the White House when we get married someday. We will be married in 20 years. --Peter N., age 7 Bismarck, ND

  11. Dear President Bush: What size shoes do you wear? My grandfather died last month and he left a lot of shoes and my brother and I would like to send you and the vice-president a pair of shoes. Do you like brown shoes or black shoes? We will shine the shoes before we send them to you. --Joey P., age 8 Erie, PA

  12. On TV you didn't answer some questions because you said the answer was classified. Can I classify my answers? I got into trouble when I admitted I broke something I shouldn't have touched. If I could say the answer is classified, I wouldn't be in trouble. --Martin J., age 9 Philadelphia, PA

  13. Dear Mr. President: My girlfriend Alyssa is a Republican and I am a Democrat. Someday we may get married. Can a Democrat marry a Republican and be happy? I am 12 and my girlfriend is 11. We would like your answer before we are 18. --Ryan C., age 12 Philadelphia, PA

  14. Someday if we have a woman president we will need more closets in the White House so the president will have room for all her clothes. My mom has three closets and my sister has two closets and my dad and my brother and I have to share closets. --Michael P., age 8 San Diego, CA

 

Pistachio Pudding Cake

1 1/4 cups flour
1/2 cup butter soft
1/2 cup shelled pecans
8 ounce pkg cream cheese soft
1 cup powdered sugar
12 ounces whipped topping thawed
3 instant pistachio pudding
4 1/2 cups milk

Heat oven to 350 grease 9 x 13 pan in a bowl mix flour and butter until crumbly and pat down in pan bake 10 to 15 min until lightly brown. Cool Combine cream cheese, powdered sugar until creamy fold in 1/2 whipped topping spread over crust.

Combine pudding mix and milk together good and pour over cream cheese. Spread remaining whipped topping over the top. refrigerate overnight.

1 1/4 cups flour
1/2 cup butter soft
1/2 cup shelled pecans
8 ounce pkg cream cheese soft
1 cup powdered sugar
12 ounces whipped topping thawed
3 instant pistachio pudding
4 1/2 cups milk

Heat oven to 350 grease 9 x 13 pan in a bowl mix flour and butter until crumbly and pat down in pan bake 10 to 15 min until lightly brown. Cool
Combine cream cheese, powdered sugar until creamy fold in 1/2 whipped topping spread over crust.

Combine pudding mix and milk together good and pour over cream cheese. Spread remaining whipped topping over the top. refrigerate overnight.

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