Everything is measured by some standard of
value. Material things are measured by length, breadth,
weight, density, usefulness or intrinsic value. Character also
has its standard of measurement. Some people are valued more
highly than others, whether in the community, in the church,
or in the nation. People are valued, not for their physical
size nor weight, but for their abilities and more especially
for their characters. In a Christian the special thing of
value, and the only special thing, is his character. If one's
character is not of a higher standard and better quality than
that of people in general, one has no right to the name
Christian.
The quality
of one's character is indicated in various ways. One's words
are generally a clear index to one's character. A person is
judged by them, and his value is reckoned by the reliance that
may be placed upon his word. We know some on whose word we
fully rely. If they tell us anything, we believe them. If they
make us a promise, we do not expect it to be broke. We rely
upon them because they have shown by their conduct that they
themselves place a high value upon their own word. Of such
person it is often said, "If he says it is so, it is true," or
"If he makes a promise, he will fulfill it." People can easily
believe and trust in their character. It is a sad fact that
such individuals are the exception rather than the rule, even
among professed Christian,. How many times promises are made
only to be broken or forgotten! This is grave matter and marks
a serious defect in Christian character. We should never make
a promise unless we fully expect to fulfil it, and we ought to
feel deep obligation to keep our promise. If we are careless
and neglectful of this, it is sure to lower us in men's
esteem, and we shall be cheapened and discredited.
HASTY
PROMISES
Many times
promises are made hastily. The person does not stop to
consider what he really is promising; he does not weigh its
meaning. He says, "Yes, yes, I will"; but later when he thinks
the matter over, it looks different to him. He is sorry that
he made the promise, and begins to look for some way out so
that he will not have to fulfill it.
These hasty
promises are just as binding as any others. If we ignore them
and do not make our word good, the persons to whom we have
made them will have just reason to condemn us. It is easier to
make promises than it is to fulfil them. Beware of making
haste to promise. Think about the fulfillment. Think whether
you really want to do, or really will do, what you promise.
Consider your promises binding. Have the fear of God before
you just as much in this matter as in other things. If you
wish people to value it yourself. If you do not value it
enough to keep it, do not expect others to value it. If you
value your word, it will make you careful about your
promises-careful in making them, careful in keeping them. Do
not make rash promises. Consider what you are promising. Is it
something that you can perform? Consider your ability and what
things may hinder. Have you any just reason to suppose that
you can fulfill it? Would it be wise for you to do it? Would
it be best? Have you made other promises that will conflict
with it? Remember that once you promise, if you do not do keep
your word failure leaves a shadow upon your character in the
mind of the one you promised unless there is some good and
sufficient reason to excuse you in his sight.
Do not make
careless promises. The bible tells us that in our planning we
should say, "If the Lord will"; that is, we should take into
consideration that the unexpected may happen. We do not know
the future; therefore we ought not to make our promises too
positive. We ought to qualify them so as to allow for
hindrances.
We ought to
be honest in making our promises are made when there is no
intention of carrying them out. Many people, rather than to
say no, will promise and then refuse to perform, thereby
making themselves liars. They have not manhood enough to
refuse and honestly tell why, so they make a promise and break
it. That is the coward's way out. It is the dishonest way out.
Some people
say, "If the Lord wills, I will do so," when they do not
consider the Lord in the matter at all but simply mean, "If I
do not change my mind." Do not throw the odium on the Lord, If
you think you may change your mind, do not commit yourself
definitely. If you are not fully decided, do not be afraid to
say, that you do not know what you will do. Be honest enough
to let the other know the state of your mind. Be honest in
making promises; be honest in fulfilling them.
FIDELITY TO
PROMISES
Do not make
too many promises. He who is too free to promise, places
little value upon his promises. He forgets them readily or
lets some trifle hinder the performance of them. He always has
a ready excuse to ease this conscience and to release himself
from the obligation. This indicates a want of character, a
lack of real sincerity.
When you
make a promise, do not forget, do not break it. Never
disappoint people when you can help it. They feel
disappointment as keenly as you do. There is an old saying
that "promises are like pie-crust-made to be broken," Are your
promises of the pie crust variety?
Possibly
you have heard the story of the old deacon. A man came to him
one day to endeavor to get him to fulfill a promise that he
had made. The deacon refused. The other urged and entreated
him, but still he refused, and finally said, "The Bible says
that we should let your words be yea, yea, and nay, nay and my
words are so," "Yes," quickly retorted the other, "when you
are asked to make a promise, they are yea, yea; but when you
are asked to fulfill it, they are nay, nay, " This is one
brand of yea-and-nay Christians, but not the kind in whom God
delights or man trust.
When you
make promises, keep them, They are test of your character. I
do not mean that you should be under bondage to your promises.
Sometimes we fully believe we can and will perform them, but
later find that it is impossible. In such a case we should
explain matters and so relieve the mind of the one to whom the
promise was made and show him that the failure to make good
our word is not due to neglect or unwillingness. Keep your
business promises. Many persons get into debt and promise to
pay and then just let things drift along. This is wrong. Pay
your debts when you agree to, or give a reason for not doing
so, and let it be a reason, not an excuse. If you promise to
do work for some one, do it. Keep your promise if you must
sacrifice to do so.
Many
parents are very careless and inconsiderate regarding their
promises to their children. Children will "tease" for things
if allowed. Too many times parents make promises that they do
not expect ever to fulfill, just to be rid of the children's
asking. Children soon learn the value of such promises, And
they learn the value of your character. Do not lie to your
children; do not make promises to them unless you mean them,
If you make promises to them and then are not able to keep
them, value your word enough and their respect enough to
explain to them the reason.
What
is your word worth? What value do you place on it? What value
do others place on it? What value does God place on it? God
wants you to "speak the truth, and lie not." Your standing,
your influence, your usefulness-all depend upon your
faithfulness; and if you are faithful, you will be faithful to
your promises. Think seriously over these things. If you are
at a fault, set about to amend. Such a fault will be a blight
upon your life and upon your character until it is corrected.
When the psalmist pictures a righteous man, he says that he
"sweareth [promiseth] to his own hurt, and changeth not." Are
you that sort of righteous person.