Do You Need
Patience?
Have you not often heard people
say, "My greatest need is more patience?" Possibly you feel
just that way yourself. There is probably no lack that so
quickly and persistently manifests itself as this lack, which
cannot exist without revealing itself, for in order to possess
patience one must employ it in his every-day life. Many people
who do not understand its real nature or how to come into
possession of it realize their need of it.
Much of the teaching on this subject of
patience proves to be ineffectual because the teacher himself
does not understand the subject. Sometimes it is taught that
all impatience comes from sin in the heart, and that if one
manifests a lack of patience, he is not sanctified. Such
teaching can come only from a misapprehension of the facts.
Sanctification is a wonderful thing, and it does wonderful
things for us. It purifies, softens and refines our whole
nature; but it does not perfect our natural faculties, and
patience is one of these natural faculties, or qualities.
There is an impatience, however, that has its root in sin and
which is sinful. The blood-cure reaches and eradicates this
type. There is also a natural impatience. How much we have of
this, depends largely upon our general make-up. A lack of
discrimination between these two kinds of impatience often
causes souls great distress. Before we teach on the subject,
we ought to be sure we have the distinction clearly drawn in
our own minds.
Patience is a matter of temperament, of grace,
and of cultivation. Some people are patient by nature. They
can take almost anything patiently. Sometimes this is from
natural calmness of disposition; sometimes it is the result of
lack of spirit. But in any case, such a person will be more
naturally patient when saved than will others who are of a
different temperament. Salvation does not destroy our natural
temperaments.
Grace goes far towards supplying us with
patience, but grace alone will not always be sufficient;
therefore patience must also be a thing of cultivation. We are
told to "add patience." This means that not all our patience
comes by grace, but that some of it comes by works. In our
sinful lives we cultivate impatience by acting out our
feelings of impatience. The more we put our feelings into
action, the more impatient we become. When we are saved, we
begin to act out patience, and the more we act it out, the
more patient we become in our nature.
Patience is largely a matter of the proper use
of the will. The Bible does not say, "Feel patient," for our
feelings are largely involuntary; but it says, "Be patient,"
that is, act patiently, for our actions are voluntary. There
are those who, when waiting for a train, cannot sit still.
Such an individual walks up and down the platform and looks at
his watch again and again. He sits down and rises again, and
turns this way and that way. Another sits quietly and is
unperturbed. It matters not to him if he does have to wait a
while. It is no task for him to be patient. He is of a patient
temperament. The other is quite the opposite. Because of this,
however, we cannot say that one has more salvation than the
other. Both are feeling naturally. The difference is in their
natures, in their temperaments, and not in their hearts.
The fact that we are exhorted again and again
to be patient signifies that the acting out of patience is a
matter of our wills. No matter how pure our hearts are, we
have tests of patience. A pure heart is not an automatic
heart, working out things independently of the will. When we
have a pure heart, our will is fully set to do right, and
through our will we regulate our actions so that they are
right. Our feelings are influenced by the will, but are not
controlled by it. We cannot help feeling sad or joyous when
there is an occasion that influences our feelings. So we
cannot but feel impatient sometimes; that is, things will try
our patience, and we find that our feelings respond, in some
degree at least, to those circumstances. The degree of
response will depend upon our temperament, and the amount of
grace we have, and how much we have cultivated patience.
Do not forget that we are not told to feel
patient, but to "be patient," though we should be careful to
control our feelings so far as is possible by the force of
will. When an impatient feeling comes, we do one of two
things; we either yield, and act it out, or we resist it and
act patiently. The latter is what we should always do. When we
are full of joy and everything is going smoothly, it is easy
to believe that we have plenty of patience; but in time of
stress, of trail, when we are weak or suffering in body, when
we are weary or feel discouraged, then it is, that we most
readily feel impatient. It is not that we have less patience
at such times, but that impatience more easily manifests
itself. We should at all times resist every feeling of
impatience, yet we should not condemn ourselves for feeling
what we cannot help. We should not think that we are not
sanctified, simply because we are not so patient as we desire
to be.
It is natural for a saved person to long for
greater patience to endure and suffer. We should do all in our
power to grow in patience. "But how shall I add patience?" you
may ask. There are two things to do. First, pray; and second,
cultivate patience. Make it a practice day by day never to
yield to an impatient feeling. Let this attitude be manifested
by word and act. Reflect upon the patience of Jesus and study
to know what is the Scriptural ideal. When your patience is
tired, deliberately take hold of yourself by your willpower;
make yourself act and speak as you know you should. By
following this rule you will become more and more patient.
This is the only possible way of adding patience.
We become in nature the reflection of our acts.
Good acts repeated become good habits. Good habits followed
out make good character. Good habits will not save or take the
place of grace, but they are equally necessary in the
formation of Christian character. "Let patience have her
perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting
nothing."