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To fret means to chafe, be
irritated, be uneasy, be troubled and bothered.
It is just the opposite of peaceful, trustful
rest. Jesus has promised us rest to our souls,
and we may have this rest. We cannot have it,
however, if we give place to worrying and
fretting. God's purpose for us is that we shall
have calmness and soul-quietness, even in the
midst of tribulation. He has said, "My peace I
give unto you." He followed this by saying, "Let
not your heart be troubled, neither let it be
fearful" (John 14:27). (These and all following
quotations are from the American Standard
Version.)
It
is not God's will that we be continually
worrying. This world is full of things that are
not as they ought to be, and if we are to be
happy and peaceful, we must adjust ourselves to
circumstances and learn to be happy in spite of
the things that are displeasing to us, that are
not as they ought to be. We can never be amidst
ideal conditions in this world.
Fretting is like sand in a
bearing; it is likely to make all sorts of
trouble. It will use up the energy that we ought
to be using for something else; it will keep our
physical and spiritual nerves on edge; it will
spoil the tranquility of our lives; it well mar
our peace and take the sweetness out of our
devotions.
Some
people are always worrying about the wrongdoings
of others. They fret and grieve, and cannot
remove that subject from their minds or the
burden from their hearts. The Bible says, "Fret
not thyself because of evil-doers" (Psa.37:1.)
Many people choose to do wrong; many people do
wrong to themselves and to others, including
God's people. Of course, we cannot rejoice over
this, but we should not let it spoil our own
lives. We should not fret about it. We should
have a proper concern for the welfare of their
souls, so that we shall earnestly pray for them
and do all in our power to cause them to do
better, but this is very different from being
fretful, from worrying and bothering ourselves
continually. If we keep our eyes on the
wickedness of others and continually grieve over
it, we shall have no time to be joyful
ourselves, we shall have no time to live our
life with God.
Psalm 37 further says,
"Fret not thyself because of him who prospereth
in his way, because of the man who bringeth
wicked devices to pass" (v. 7). What all of us
need to learn is to let God bear his own
responsibilities. He tells us what to do in the
first part of the verse--"Rest in Jehovah, and
wait patiently for him." If evildoers prosper,
if they seem even more prosperous than the
righteous, if they seem to get along without
trouble, we should not be bothered over that.
That is God's business. We see a great many evil
things going on, and we should like to stop
them. They grieve us in spirit, and this is but
natural. But we ought not to fret ourselves over
them. There is a vast difference between godly
concern and human worry, and we need to learn
this difference clearly. To be concerned about
such things, and to pray earnestly for God to
overcome them and put a stop to them, is all
very well; but when it comes to fretting over
them and worrying and being bothered, this is
quite another thing. We should never let these
things mar the peace of our souls. God means for
us to have peace and be thankful right here in
the midst of all this wickedness.
He
tells us why we should not fret. "Fret not
thyself; it tendeth only to evil-doing" (v. 8).
Fretfulness has a tendency to make us doubt God
and his wisdom: how natural for us to think that
if we had the power that he has we would put a
stop to such things. It has a tendency to make
us murmur and to be dissatisfied. It is likely
to discourage us; and when we are discouraged,
we are likely to murmur against the way things
appear to be going. Fretfulness is almost
certain to take the sweetness out of our hearts
and out of our communion with God. It will lead
to a loss of spirituality. It will rob us of
spiritual tone.
When
we are fretting we may think that we are doing
the best we can, but we are not. We may think
that we cannot help fretting, but we can. There
is a way in which we may possess control of
ourselves and cast the burden of the
responsibility upon God, and he will bear it if
we do thus. We have to decide that we will be
happy no matter what happens, no matter what the
conduct of others may be, no matter what
obstacles they place in our way, no matter what
burdens they may throw upon us. We will be happy
anyway, because God has willed that we should be
happy. If we see things going wrong we should
take the burden to the Lord, saying: "Lord, thou
must bear the responsibility of these things. My
shoulders were not made to bear these burdens.
They are thine. I give them over to thee. If
anything is to be accomplished, thou must do
it." Then we must take our hands off. We must
let the thing go, treat it as something that is
none of our business, and let God handle the
situation.
Again, he said, "Neither
be thou envious against them that work
unrighteousness." It is so easy to look upon
those who are rich and who are not using their
money for God, and think, "I wish I had their
money; how much good I might do with it!" Or
perhaps when we see talented people of the
world, we might say, "Oh, if I had the ability
they have, I would use it for the Lord!" God
does not want us to do this; that is, to envy
them, their riches or talents. It is all right
for us to wish that we had more money or greater
talents to use for the Lord, but it is not right
to be envious of others. Even wishing that we
had more is a waste of time. The thing that is
important is that we use what we do have.
If
we are given to letting ourselves worry and fret
over things that others do toward us, it is
often and incentive to them to try to make us
trouble. We see a good illustration of this in
the life of Hannah. Elkanah had two wives.
Peninnah had a number of children but Hannah was
childless. Peninnah took advantage of this to
reproach Hannah and it is said she "provoked her
sore, to make her fret" (1 Sam. 1:6). There are
some people who delight in twitting others about
some fault or physical defect, or because of
lack of ability or something of that sort. If
they see that this causes us to fret, it only
increases their desire to provoke us. Then
again, some people like to make sport of others,
and tease them; and if they see that some one
cannot bear it well, if it frets him and worries
him, this only increases their delight. I have
heard such people say, "I just like to tease
So-and-so; he can not stand it at all." Saints,
of course, should never do such a thing as that;
they should have more regard for the feelings of
others. But sinners will do such things. We may
expect it. Therefore, the thing to do is to
learn not to fret over it, but to submit our
ways to God and bear it patiently.
Never allow yourself to
fret over anything. Fretting never helps. It
always hinders. Learn to commit these things to
God. Cast your burdens upon him--and do not try
to bear his burdens. Learn to be happy in spite
of your difficulties. Keep your own soul-life
separated from these troublesome things. God
will help you, and you can make a success. He
commands you not to fret, and he will give you
grace to keep from doing
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