A woman, renewing her driver's
license at the County Clerk 's office,
was
asked by the woman recorder to state her
occupation.
She hesitated, uncertain how
to classify herself.
"What I
mean is, " explained the recorder,
"do
you have a job or are you just a ?"
"Of
course I have a job," snapped the woman.
"I'm a Mom."
"We don't list 'Mom'
as an occupation,
'housewife' covers it,"
Said the recorder emphatically.
I
forgot all about her story until one day I found
myself
in the same situation, this time at
our own Town Hall.
The Clerk was
obviously a career woman, poised,
efficient,
and possessed of a high sounding title like,
"Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."
"What is your occupation?" she probed.
What made me say it? I do not
know.
The words simply popped out.
"I'm a Research Associate in the field
of
Child Development and Human Relations."
The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in
midair and
looked up as though she had not
heard right.
I repeated the
title slowly emphasizing the most significant
words.
Then I stared with wonder as my
pronouncement was written,
in bold, black ink
on the official questionnaire.
"Might I
ask," said the clerk with new interest,
"just
what you do in your field?"
Coolly,
without any trace of fluster in my voice,
I
heard myself reply,
"I have a continuing
program of research,
(what mother doesn't)
In the laboratory and in the field,
(normally I would have said indoors and out).
I'm working for my Masters, (first the
Lord and then the whole family)
and already
have four credits (all daughters).
Of
course, the job is one of the most demanding in
the humanities,
(any mother care to disagree?)
and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more
like it).
But the job is more
challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers
and the rewards are more of a satisfaction
rather than just money."
There was an
increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as
she
completed the form, stood up, and
personally ushered me to the door.
As I
drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous
new career,
I was greeted by my lab assistants
-- ages 13, 7, and 3.
Upstairs I
could hear our new experimental model,
(a 6
month old baby) in the child development program,
testing out a new vocal pattern.
I
felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!
And I had gone on the official records
as someone more
distinguished and
indispensable to mankind than "just another
Mom."
Motherhood!
What a glorious career!
Especially when there's a
title on the door.